A healthy majority of people — especially men — are all about the orgasm. It’s their sole focus in the game of sex. They can’t wait to get there. That magical point that it all leads up to. And, oh, my God, is it fantastic! But what is the rush? If this moment in time — these short few seconds — are so utterly spectacular, why would you be anxious to get to the end of the experience? They are clearly not thinking straight. Their genitals have assumed the role of the brain. If they were more contemplative about their sexual experiences, they would realize they are doing it all wrong. Thankfully, there are some people in the XXX world who understand and appreciate the benefits of a prolonged orgasm. Maybe too much so, sometimes. It is called edging, and it can be glorious.
Edging is, very simply, continuously delaying — or denying — someone’s orgasm, especially a man’s. There are varying degrees of it, as there are for most things sexual. When you are being edged by someone, you are without question in the role of the submissive. You are placing your pleasure firmly in the hands — sometimes literally — of a dominant who will ultimately decide when you can achieve orgasm. You can also edge yourself by stop-and-start motions when you are fucking someone. Edging is often relegated, though not strictly so, to the XXX gay world.
A dom will often restrain the sub’s hands so there is no chance for self-stimulation. The sub will be stimulated either manually or orally in a very slow, steady manner. When they are on the cusp of ejaculation, totally writhing and twitching with an aching need to explode, the dom will suddenly stop stimulating the sub’s penis. After a few minutes pass, the process will begin anew. Edging will leave you exhausted, yet hungry for more. It’s an XXX staple for a reason.